Chandler, the second guy on my list of "guys to get rid of." He was a first year law student, very smart, good sense of humor, baby-faced and cute as a button. And he was very nice. I'll probably get a load of shit for even saying this, but Chandler was just too nice. And that was about it - there was zero chemistry on my end - nice just wasn't enough, even with his adorable cherub cheeks.

Hoping to avoid another awkward in person cross-examination this time by a lawyer in training, I opted to just have it all out via IM during one of our chats and get it over with.

Me: Chandler, I don't know how to say this, so I'm just gonna come out and get it over with.

Chandler: You're just not that into me?

Me: You've read that book, too, huh? Well, I wasn't going to put it that way exactly, but yeah, I guess you could say that.

Chandler: That's okay, I figured as much when I didn't hear back from you for a few weeks. Can we still be friends? I just moved here and don't know many people.

Me: yeah, we can be friends...

And since we were going to be friends, we decided we should meet up for a drink (since that was what friends do) - it turned out we lived a few blocks from one another. We met up on a Wednesday night at Tonic to watch the Sox. We had a good time and thankfully, there was no chemistry between us. We really were just two people - two friends - watching the game.

It had been a long time since I had a guy in my life that was really nothing more than my friend. I know, most people argue that guys and girls cannot be just friends; That the only reason a guy would agree to be friends with a girl, especially one he had romantic hopes for, is because it's like saying there's still a chance. A chance to be the shoulder to lean on, an ear to bend, a confidant with the inside scoop as to the workings of a male brain when things go south with the other dudes in her life. A chance to swoop in at just the right moment, and steal her heart away.

At the time, I would've argued adamantly that that was all bullshit. Men and women absolutely can be friends with no strings or intentions whatsoever. That is of course, until Chandler asked me to his law school formal a few weeks later.

You know, just as friends...

And of course, like an idiot, I agreed to go.